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Endeavor to never show actual vulnerability to a woman. It's surface level tripe and she will lose respect for you.
Women tend to say one thing and mean another, think they want one thing but it's something else entirely.
"He doesn't cry" is womanese for "The drama part of my brain itches and I have a short list of things to complain about" or "I need something to chew at while conversing with my friend here", which isn't an invitation to talk about your feelings. "Do men even have feelings" is an acknowledgement of a masculine difference in a coat of feminine self-aggrandizement.
You've never spoken to a woman and it's very fucking obvious, lmao. Try actually speaking to some.
Do elaborate, this isn't reddit.
It's obvious your operating off of extremely negative stereotypes about women.
I'm not surprised, lots of predominantly online young men are exposed to pretty shit women, but that doesn't mean that women will never support you when you are vulnerable. In fact, that's a major responsibility of women in a relationship in order to ensure that their men stay strong.
I said that you should strive to not be, which is an impossible task if you intend to live with someone, you're going to break atleast once.
I'll let you in on a personal detail, I've had my heart eviscerated thinking I could just trust a woman's words at face value, thinking I could just open up about my feelings, my ails, my past - then that relationship became eroded by uncertainty; respect was replaced by pity, pity was replaced by resentment. It didn't happen overnight, I wasn't even lost in self-pity, but I made a serious mistake in breaking infront of her.
I lost everything because I opened up and broke down. So no, it's not "obvious". You don't have a single fucking clue as to what it took to rebuild myself or the realizations that followed. Every interaction I ever had behind closed doors, what women say, what they do, it began to make sense that within each is "janus" - operating on two entirely different planes of thought, it's never directly conjured or consulted at surface level, but what they say, what they mean, and what they do don't tend to align. They speak an entirely different language and this isn't a singular experience - most are like this to some greater or lesser degree. This was manifest in every relationship platonic and romantic. In a snap, life around women became easy.
Therefore I keep it in mind to keep my mouth fucking SHUT about my feelings unless it is important. I don't ever want to be pitied again, nor go through another two year death spiral because I thought I could have a vulnerable moment.
I don't think it is necessarily a negative realization.