I have some very good family surrounded by dysfunctional mess otherwise. I'm very selective as to which family I've gotten closer with. I'm the same way with friends I don't care to have a bunch of friends just a few good ones is fine. Sure, some have come around looking for money and I've told them no. Trying to play emotional games is the end with me. It's worked well because I can be distant and off putting naturally and there's enough others in the family sick of the backstabbing behind the back games to join me.