You're correct that polygyny works better, but it has problems of its own. The main one is that it creates a lot of leftover men who have no stake in society and wouldn't piss on the beneficiaries of the system if they were on fire. That's really not good for building/maintaining a civilization. Monogamy is the norm because it works. Our society is collapsing largely because we're reverting to polygyny in practice if not in theory. You can't maintain a society if you punish the people who keep it running.
Right, in terms of greater society it fell away for a reason. However on individual levels it has far more going for it beyond just sex like polyandry does. You can actually sell its benefits to both genders without having to overcome biological instincts, as women's jealousy is far less of a dominant force.
Point being not that it is a goal to work towards, but that it is a better step out of monogamy if that was their goal. And that in avoiding it entirely, betrays their actual goals.
You're correct that polygyny works better, but it has problems of its own. The main one is that it creates a lot of leftover men who have no stake in society and wouldn't piss on the beneficiaries of the system if they were on fire. That's really not good for building/maintaining a civilization. Monogamy is the norm because it works. Our society is collapsing largely because we're reverting to polygyny in practice if not in theory. You can't maintain a society if you punish the people who keep it running.
Right, in terms of greater society it fell away for a reason. However on individual levels it has far more going for it beyond just sex like polyandry does. You can actually sell its benefits to both genders without having to overcome biological instincts, as women's jealousy is far less of a dominant force.
Point being not that it is a goal to work towards, but that it is a better step out of monogamy if that was their goal. And that in avoiding it entirely, betrays their actual goals.
There’s also the fact that women can’t get along. Why someone would want more than one wife if beyond me.