I was watching a Simpsons episode from the 90s called Homer Badman where he takes the babysitter home and there is a gummy candy stuck to her butt and he grabs it off her without touching her butt as she is leaving the car. Long story short there is sensational reporting that mocks shows from that era like Hard Copy or A Current Affair. One of the greatest lines is on a parody of Sally Jesse Raphael where the panel consists of mothers and daughters united in their hatred for Homer Simpson and one lady talks about Homer and breaks down in tears and the host says "there there, your tears say more than any real evidence ever could"
That pretty much sums up the metoo movement. I remember being downvoted in reddit for saying that you can't just take an accusation as the gospel truth especially when they haven't filed any police report and just tweet about something.
I honestly think that the Simpsons could have had at least a mild resurgence if they had mocked that stupid comedian that made the documentary about Apu. What was funny was that a lot of people from India or whose parents were from there had no problem with Apu but they didn't matter, and one guy said when he was little they teased him and called him Apu, but if Apu hadn't existed they would've just called him something else.
Both sexes need to stop used sex to get stuff; attention or pleasure. Sex is a mutual decision (ideally, and legally) and anyone having sex to get something from someone else is a garbage person.
That said, if you have sex with someone, you owe them a committment. The idea that you should have sex with someone and then walk away the next day is so obviously a bad idea that even feminists have figured it out (albeit in the most ass-backwards way possible).
Sex leads to kids, and no birth control is 100%. Every single time you have sex you need to be prepared to spend 20+ years of your life in cooperation with your partner. If nothing happens, you can absolve each other and go your separate ways. But if she gets pregnant, that's the choice you both made.
Never going to happen. It's one of the few bargaining chips women bring to the table.
Why?
Sure, if you create a child, you suddenly owe both a commitment.
But casual sex doesn't suddenly owe a debt of a defined relationship.
If one desires and expects both a defined, committed relationship and sex, perhaps one should reverse the order in which they expect their demands to be fulfilled.
The whole "if you have sex with someone you owe them a commitment" is precisely how bad relationships start. You have to understand people's nature.
Young men can't think clearly regarding relationships when they want to have sex with a woman. Its not until after they have sex with the woman that they can think clearly and realize they don't want a relationship with the woman. This is why men are significantly more likely than women to sleep with people much less attractive than themselves who they would never date. Men want to have sex and then they get mental clarity after they have the sex that they don't really want anything more.
Good men are the ones who break it off immediately because they don't want to lead the women on. Immoral men are the ones who lead the women on so they can get sex from her until the man finds a better woman to date. This just leads to even more heartbreak for the woman.
You know in the Bible for example, punishment for a man raping a woman is having to stay with her and that's considered punishment enough? But men aren't raping these women, the women are letting the men have sex with them without any sort of commitment from the man. That's a fault of the women.
I agree with you that casual sex is bad but it falls on both people. Women need to stop having sex so easily with men. There's a reason we used to not allow sex until after marriage. That is actually a better system.
In absence of this system though you can't simply blame the men for wanting to have sex with the women. It's actually easier from a biological perspective for women to stop having sex with men than it is for men to stop having sex with women. Women should stop having sex with men and expecting the men to commit. Women should be waiting for the commitment first (marriage) before women have sex with men. That is how things used to be until women decided they wanted to have more sex. Women were the driver's behind sexual liberation not men because women are the ones who control the supply of sex not men