I guess it's variable. I used to be with other women, but not because I hated men, but because I wanted to be one myself.There was never any violence in these relationships, but they all ended with the women wanting to have children at some point. In retrospect, understandable, because I always tried to be the man women secretly really want. But of course I unfortunately couldn't make children with them.

However, there is no denying that the genus you describe exists. But you probably only know this one, because it is the loudest and most unpleasant.

My personal opinion on the subject is that there are actually very few people who get gender identification problems due to congenital hormone problems. I was born with too much testosterone in my blood, I grow a few whiskers, I have a rather dark voice for a woman and I had strong difficulties identifying myself as a girl as a child. My appearance is quite androgynous and has often been the cause of speculation in public as to whether I am a feminine man or a masculine woman. But such people are indeed the exception in the gay and lesbian scene. The majority of these people have serious problems with their parents and a disturbed self-perception induced by this, basically similar to anorexics. Fear of touch and contact in the family or the stark perverted opposite of this is usually behind people having conflicts with their own self-perception. These people usually realise relatively late that they are homosexual or prefer to belong to the opposite sex, may have an artificial hormonal imbalance induced by medication and then, to a certain extent, start thinking about clinical mutilation of the reproductive organs. And a very small proportion of them, in turn, simply have an amputation fetish, but those are the exceptions at the other end of that line.

Personally, I've just kind of accepted that I'm both and I would never think of having my genitals mutilated to feel exclusively male. Because of my congenital hormone imbalance, I can feel like a man without a penis when I'm not having my period, that's weird enough and a sex change operation wouldn't make me a real man, but just a mutilated woman.