From observing the women around me in my life, I believe a lot of the problem with maintaining a home comes from the average women scoring much higher in neuroticism traits than men in the Big 5 personality scale as pointed out by Jordan Peterson.
I have no doubt that the average female is a better planner, more organized, more interested in running a household, etc.
But a lot of the stress and unhappiness and fatigue and anxiety that I observe in the women close to me seems to arise from the fact that they care a lot more about the judgment of others rather than the hierarchy of needs that should prioritize what absolutely needs to be done vs what is a "nice to have" and superfluous.
A lot of ritualistic housecleaning seems to arise from "I like to keep a clean house", which seems rooted a lot in being judged by others rather than hygienic or organizational purposes.
There's also the fact that some people aren't happy unless they are being industrious. Some of the women that I know are obsessed with lists, where helping them accomplish their list faster doesn't lead to relief and relaxation.
It simply results in the immediate creation of a new secondary list of tasks that were obviously more superfluous than everything on the original list.
My sister and mom both insist on doing everything themselves whenever family gets together at their house. They're running around the entire time with crazy eyes, barely listening to the people who are trying to talk to them, then they inevitably complain about how they didn't have any help.
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From observing the women around me in my life, I believe a lot of the problem with maintaining a home comes from the average women scoring much higher in neuroticism traits than men in the Big 5 personality scale as pointed out by Jordan Peterson.
I have no doubt that the average female is a better planner, more organized, more interested in running a household, etc.
But a lot of the stress and unhappiness and fatigue and anxiety that I observe in the women close to me seems to arise from the fact that they care a lot more about the judgment of others rather than the hierarchy of needs that should prioritize what absolutely needs to be done vs what is a "nice to have" and superfluous.
A lot of ritualistic housecleaning seems to arise from "I like to keep a clean house", which seems rooted a lot in being judged by others rather than hygienic or organizational purposes.
There's also the fact that some people aren't happy unless they are being industrious. Some of the women that I know are obsessed with lists, where helping them accomplish their list faster doesn't lead to relief and relaxation.
It simply results in the immediate creation of a new secondary list of tasks that were obviously more superfluous than everything on the original list.
My sister and mom both insist on doing everything themselves whenever family gets together at their house. They're running around the entire time with crazy eyes, barely listening to the people who are trying to talk to them, then they inevitably complain about how they didn't have any help.