100% nailed it.

Also this...

and instead of considering that maybe she's the problem, she automatically assumes it must be everyone else.

This is a very common problem across the board for everyone, including both genders.

But you're right that women hold all the power and men are the ones trying to play fetch for the women. There are so many guys who complain about constantly messaging women on dating sites and the women just ignoring them, and then you have women constantly talking about how many times men message them and how they don't like the guys who message them.

If you really look at the social dynamics, though, some of the women were explaining that a lot of guys just don't exude much personality. They fall into the category of saying: "I'm a fairly attractive dude, I have a steady or high-paying job, and I want a pretty wife to do things with."

Lots of generic stuff like that, which means that most women are going to ignore guys who may have some wealth and decent looks but nothing else going for them, especially if she has other suitors who have the same qualities but with something a little extra.

I've always said that between K-5 there needs to be classes built on expressive communication, helping kids learn to express themselves individually, respectfully, and honestly. It's funny that these sort of courses are restricted to college programs specifically about communication (and usually it's about manipulative communication for marketing/sales purposes rather than self-improvement).

So if you have a bunch of socially stunted people, only the ones who standout will garner attention. For women without looks and no personality, she's going to be in the exact same dating caste as many men who have generic profiles or who don't stand out among the herd.

These women are now finding out how hard it is to date when the cards are stacked against them, just like how it's been for ages with men. The only thing now is that larger and larger portions of women are becoming obese in the West, so instead of holding sexual power (the greatest power women hold over men) they don't even have that, and they're now finding that without the power of sex appeal, they have nothing, and so instead of improving they will rot away as femcels.