When they query it, make them compare what they are doing "wait and see" which is a passive non interventionist approach, with what the school/councellors are doing, which is an active intervention seeking to modify her normal sexual development.
Ask them what else "An adult taking an active interest in guiding a pre teens sexual development" is, especially when you compare it to what the parents are doing.
It's grooming. You could also point out that the next step is to make her trans, if you explain the playbook they can see it in action, this probably won't help them, but it might inoculate your wife and protect your own kids.
Just start referring to it as grooming.
When they query it, make them compare what they are doing "wait and see" which is a passive non interventionist approach, with what the school/councellors are doing, which is an active intervention seeking to modify her normal sexual development.
Ask them what else "An adult taking an active interest in guiding a pre teens sexual development" is, especially when you compare it to what the parents are doing.
It's grooming. You could also point out that the next step is to make her trans, if you explain the playbook they can see it in action, this probably won't help them, but it might inoculate your wife and protect your own kids.