Something I have noticed about a lot of the protests and anger is the idea that the people involved want the power, but not the responsibility. I'll use women as my example, but I have spoken to others. I asked them if they knew all of the responsibilities men grow up with. The idea that paying for a wife and kids seemed kind of foreign and surprising to them. The job is so important to the male psyche that they often look at themselves as their job. So many women have been raised that the man pays for things, they don't understand the concept of balancing a budget, or how much a dinner costs.
I expect some maliciousness, but I also suspect the majority of people who are saying things have honestly never known about the responsibility and identifying with it. They haven't been told, and most people assume they have. The malicious are specifically making sure this information doesn't spread.
I also suspect the reason why is Men were trying to show kindness by praising women and denigrating themselves. This attempt to look at the greatness of the other can be very humble and good. It leads to problems when the reality isn't explained to the women involved.
Have you seen this pattern? What signs and ideas go along with it?
I think telling them can also help.
I've worked with refugees and immigrants. They made a lot of mistakes because no one was willing to tell them. For example, there are a lot of broken toilets along truck lines because the African trucker doesn't know you have to use the toilet like a chair.
You're not wrong. This is a very common problem I've seen when the west has to build facilities that the rest of the world uses. Most of the world doesn't use toilets. The results can be disastrous.
And obviously telling them is a good first step. It's like a "everyone" sized red-pill.
I think that was the original reason why HR existed. Someone needed to translate between marketing, design, engineering and accounting and the boss was too drunk to care.
It's a common problem. People assume that everyone has lived exactly like them, so it's hard to register the differences. Far worse, it's hard to teach those differences and how to respond. Especially when one side thinks it's helping but hasn't a clue.
The purpose of HR would be great if they could do that, but there's some underlying fundamental problems in that too. The boss should absolutely care, and those specific teams should know what and who they need. That's why HR needs to be working together with everyone else.
Not dictating everyone else abide by racial quotas.
Oh I agree. The purpose and actual use are very different.