I'm gonna drop some truths here, fite me.
Is loli a form of pedophilia? Yes. It is. Its consumers are terrible people. They are not criminals, in that the law is only concerned with preventing the exploitation of actual children. Our bill of rights is exceptionally permissive of offensive ideas, but simply because we tolerate something to exist does not constitute a moral endorsement.
Lolicons are like people who abuse ritalin. It doesn't make it "not meth" simply because you're not cooking it from Sudafed and batteries.
Anything is debatable, but lol food preference and this shit is not the same ballpark, it is not the same sport. "I like my steak on the done side" is not the fucking same as "I like to wank it to illustrations of children" and if you think it is you're an idiot- or an idiot sex pervert.
Or maybe I can tell the difference between fiction and reality?
Irrelevant. Sexual attraction to children is a paraphilia and the sign of an mentally and spiritually unwell mind, raping children is a crime. The fact that someone doesn't do the latter doesn't change the former (wow, you don't rape children, what do you want a cookie?). Exposure does nothing but increase a paraphilia; the treatment for madness is not the feed the madness.
Irrelevant. If there is no damage, there is no reason to be concerned.
Firstly your statement is untrue. Secondly your statement would be irrelevant if it were true.
"A bunch of your countrymen are so damaged by porn addiction that they wank it to illustrations of children just to be transgressive" is in no world a reason not to be concerned.