What person could have more of "nothing to lose" than some poor sap who has convinced himself that people wanting to touch his pee pee is the be-all end-all of existence?

How do I phrase this without sounding like a weirdo myself?

Evolutionarily, it literally is. This is why men go crazy when they don't have sex, and women go crazy when they don't have children. Since men are not the ones who give birth to children (REEEE TWANSPHOBIA), they just need to have sex for their biology to be comforted, while women need to actually give birth.

The problem with the incel lot is not necessarily that they are place too much importance on sex. Though I agree with you on that, I think that is just their biology. It is that they think being a self-pitying, pathetic loser is in any way productive. Or maybe they realize that they isn't productive, but they act like a woman - in rather than trying to solve their problem, they just want to whine about it without solving it.