I'm glad you were able to see it at least.
I can't even properly put into words how pernicious it is to inculcate young boys throughout childhood that everything that comes naturally to them is somehow inherently bad. But only when they do it. If another child who's a girl does something similar they're praised as 'empowered' – it's insane to think they won't pick up on that.
These guys are so beaten down that they actually believe that 'findom' is a fetish and that they're not just straight up being conned.