Honestly? This is kinda what you get for paying for everything for your kids. They end up not taking their schooling seriously, because mommy/daddy are still driving the car. They need "driving lessons" before you hand over the wheel, or else they inevitably drive themselves over a cliff, because it might look "fun," not realizing no parent in the world is capable of catching your fucking car.
I absolutely hate how many parents fail to have the foresight for this sort of inevitability. Nurturing is cool and all, but that's only step fucking 1. You can't just buy their way into adulthood you absolute morons. Sure, it opens kids up for opportunity, but that's about it. If they lack the motivation, that opportunity may as well be a wall.
I blame fickle marriages. The mother/father dynamic plays heavily in what kid needs to properly develop. Take one out of the picture, and those ideals get lopsided as all fuck. You end up with a mom that's all nurture but no push. You end up with just a dad that just wants to push you out of the house, leading to the kid with little early financial stability. It is INCREDIBLY difficult for a single parental entity to fulfill both roles, because the kid will identify you as one or the other. Not both.
As someone who went through paying for it myself, it's really the way to go. Just let your kids grow up knowing that their education is not paid for them and they better figure it out. I did it with a combination of living at home still, junior college scholarships, and just plain old working a lot to write tuition checks. Sure, it took a couple years longer but I was just so much better set up for a good start to life. I had a lot of real world work experience that showed I could actually hold a job, the college degree, and I took no loans so no ridiculous mountain of debt. I suppose I gave up the stupid notion that college should be an experience you see in a frat party movie, because I was too damn busy for that lifestyle. I don't think I lost anything there.
It can be done, and not just the way I did it. Military service for example...even something like the national guard will get college paid for and for the most part you're giving up a year for training, some weekend service, and likely a deployment or two over the enlistment.
Honestly? This is kinda what you get for paying for everything for your kids. They end up not taking their schooling seriously, because mommy/daddy are still driving the car. They need "driving lessons" before you hand over the wheel, or else they inevitably drive themselves over a cliff, because it might look "fun," not realizing no parent in the world is capable of catching your fucking car.
I absolutely hate how many parents fail to have the foresight for this sort of inevitability. Nurturing is cool and all, but that's only step fucking 1. You can't just buy their way into adulthood you absolute morons. Sure, it opens kids up for opportunity, but that's about it. If they lack the motivation, that opportunity may as well be a wall.
I blame fickle marriages. The mother/father dynamic plays heavily in what kid needs to properly develop. Take one out of the picture, and those ideals get lopsided as all fuck. You end up with a mom that's all nurture but no push. You end up with just a dad that just wants to push you out of the house, leading to the kid with little early financial stability. It is INCREDIBLY difficult for a single parental entity to fulfill both roles, because the kid will identify you as one or the other. Not both.
Sorry, got a little ranty there...
As someone who went through paying for it myself, it's really the way to go. Just let your kids grow up knowing that their education is not paid for them and they better figure it out. I did it with a combination of living at home still, junior college scholarships, and just plain old working a lot to write tuition checks. Sure, it took a couple years longer but I was just so much better set up for a good start to life. I had a lot of real world work experience that showed I could actually hold a job, the college degree, and I took no loans so no ridiculous mountain of debt. I suppose I gave up the stupid notion that college should be an experience you see in a frat party movie, because I was too damn busy for that lifestyle. I don't think I lost anything there.
It can be done, and not just the way I did it. Military service for example...even something like the national guard will get college paid for and for the most part you're giving up a year for training, some weekend service, and likely a deployment or two over the enlistment.