If its optional to be gay in the game then it should also be optional to persecute gays in the game.
Why can't i hunt down all the gays in the game as an "optional" side quest? why can't i roleplay as a homophobic priest? why can't i report Hans to the Church for being gay? its all just "optional" right?
Hey I said this earlier!
Truly "optional" would be gay romance and gay slaughter not gay romance or not gay romance.
Hogwarts legacy was an especially horrible example of this, you had "cruel" dialogue options, but the moment they were over your character reverted to soft shelled poor sweet babyisms.