It's just matter of judging if the change is real or not.
I agree entirely.
But I do not believe people make giant, dramatic changes that easily. They say they do, but its just painting themselves a new color. The personality traits or defects that made them X way before are still there, and likely unaddressed, and are just now being channeled in a new direction. And they will just as easily change with the next tide too.
AA has stuck around so long because it understands that change is a lifelong process of daily work. You can't just declare yourself sober and suddenly you are. Under the newfound 40 church services a month and peppy attitude you are the same person waiting to snap back.
Which is why people who "change" once the tide does, consequences become obvious and imminent, and they've already contributed to the damage immensely are just showing themselves to be cowards or fools trying to dodge responsibility and cozy up to a new side.
I agree entirely.
But I do not believe people make giant, dramatic changes that easily. They say they do, but its just painting themselves a new color. The personality traits or defects that made them X way before are still there, and likely unaddressed, and are just now being channeled in a new direction. And they will just as easily change with the next tide too.
AA has stuck around so long because it understands that change is a lifelong process of daily work. You can't just declare yourself sober and suddenly you are. Under the newfound 40 church services a month and peppy attitude you are the same person waiting to snap back.
Which is why people who "change" once the tide does, consequences become obvious and imminent, and they've already contributed to the damage immensely are just showing themselves to be cowards or fools trying to dodge responsibility and cozy up to a new side.