Well, we can't outright call for violence, but I think some people are definitely thinking it. But I agree with you, and that was kind of my point; anything that doesn't work toward saving your son, and might land you in jail, should not be attempted until, at the very least, you save your son. And if you do, you probably don't do the other stuff, because your son needs his father.

So, yeah, we're in complete agreement; saving the son comes first. If you can't...well, then I can see how you might resort to other actions. As the top comment in this chain implies, a man with nothing to lose is a dangerous prospect. If you no longer have the modulating influence or the goal of saving your son, some other options might seem more appealing in comparison.

Family comes first. Revenge, if you still have the chance to save your family, is counterproductive, and just means you're giving up on your family instead of helping them.