I would if I had the time and resources look after an orphan but WOULDN'T in most circumstances be a stepdad.
Why? If I became a stepdad, I'm dealing with a single mother that might've drove that man out so already a toxic influence on that kid and be planning to drive me out too after draining me. Orphan literally has no one so I'd rather try and help raise them with the sane part of my family than let the state mold them into their toy.
Only exception to being a stepdad is if she's a widow and 100% NOT responsible for in any way his death. Those ones could just be good wife/mother material but fate went fuck you so that's my exception.
Sometimes you can love a kid that isn’t yours. My friend’s son years ago. I would have took him in if it was absolutely necessary (not likely). I also love my niece who’s in-law acquired and would take her in with my wife if necessary.
I would if I had the time and resources look after an orphan but WOULDN'T in most circumstances be a stepdad.
Why? If I became a stepdad, I'm dealing with a single mother that might've drove that man out so already a toxic influence on that kid and be planning to drive me out too after draining me. Orphan literally has no one so I'd rather try and help raise them with the sane part of my family than let the state mold them into their toy.
Only exception to being a stepdad is if she's a widow and 100% NOT responsible for in any way his death. Those ones could just be good wife/mother material but fate went fuck you so that's my exception.
Sometimes you can love a kid that isn’t yours. My friend’s son years ago. I would have took him in if it was absolutely necessary (not likely). I also love my niece who’s in-law acquired and would take her in with my wife if necessary.
I would gladly help financially or with free legal work if any of my friends were suddenly bereaved but I couldn't ever raise a kid that's not mine.