men my age (45) are generally not patient or wanting a life partner
Well I'm basically that age. I'd never say life partner because that sounds gay, but I'm only interested in a relationship for the sake of family, or not at all. The vast majority of those of us that are left at that age are willing to be on our own versus picking up someone else's discarded problem. So yeah, in a lot of cases we seek a unicorn, but it's better than getting our soul sucked away and then taken for everything else we have left.
I'm over a decade younger than you are and I'm in a similar boat, only I wouldn't even entertain a relationshit for a family. The divorce laws give women way too much power over men for that to be a viable option for me.
I'd say for me there's a difference between entertaining and actively seeking such a relationship, and I'm certainly not doing the latter at this point. I did hit a point where in a way I look back and wonder if I should have had a family, and I think many do at a certain age. The shriveled up cat ladies even more so than men. I don't have any real time where I set aside a real solid option in the past that would cause regret, so it's not something that bothers me. I do think most men at some point in their life seek a connection to the future, and for me that's my nephews and a close cousin all of which are probably the most important family members to me.
Well I'm basically that age. I'd never say life partner because that sounds gay, but I'm only interested in a relationship for the sake of family, or not at all. The vast majority of those of us that are left at that age are willing to be on our own versus picking up someone else's discarded problem. So yeah, in a lot of cases we seek a unicorn, but it's better than getting our soul sucked away and then taken for everything else we have left.
I'm over a decade younger than you are and I'm in a similar boat, only I wouldn't even entertain a relationshit for a family. The divorce laws give women way too much power over men for that to be a viable option for me.
I'd say for me there's a difference between entertaining and actively seeking such a relationship, and I'm certainly not doing the latter at this point. I did hit a point where in a way I look back and wonder if I should have had a family, and I think many do at a certain age. The shriveled up cat ladies even more so than men. I don't have any real time where I set aside a real solid option in the past that would cause regret, so it's not something that bothers me. I do think most men at some point in their life seek a connection to the future, and for me that's my nephews and a close cousin all of which are probably the most important family members to me.