X-Com 1 and 2 (new versions) are great games, even if they moved away from the large squad slaughter that was Enemy Unknown, terror from the deep and partially Apocalypse. I personally really enjoyed looking at black sections of the map and thinking "that will cost 3 rookies to explore"
Everyone is aware of the "95% to hit meme" around X-Com, and if you've played Phoenix Point, the difference is especially jarring. If you haven't, aiming in that game is purely a probability cone, so standing point blank next to an alien means something. In X-Com it doesn't mean diddly squat.
I finally figured out what the problem with X-Com is, and why it's always uniquely frustrating. With it's pod based mechanics, fake stealth and drip fed enemies. What you are seeing on screen has no relevance and only serves as a distraction. Being right next to an Alien and missing is irrelevant because where the character and alien are on screen do not correlate with the game.
X-Com is, for all intents and purposes a very fun card battle game. If it were a Dos prompt game, with exactly 0 visuals, nothing would be lost.
Try it next time you play, completely ignore the visuals and imagine your character as a card drawing a dice based attack against another card.
You end up loosing alot less squad members in the original X Com if you take the scorched earth approach.
Set things on fire. Blow up buildings. Thrown grenades and high explosives work great. Breech and clear? Pfft, fuck that - blow up the walls and watch as sectoids pass out from smoke inhalation. Massive fields of wheat in a night mission on a farm? It's not a night mission anymore if everything is on fire! Sectoids holed up in thier ship? Set up a crossfire of 8 guys and just wait patiently under cover. They'll come out. They always come out.
Man, now I want to go play the original X Com again.
I miss the Megapol Autocannon with HE ammo from Apocalypse. Yeah the Toxigun is just objectively better (as long as you have soldiers that can aim at least a little bit), but it will never be as cool as one-handing a 40mm minigun with explosive rounds, that's some Warhammer shit.