That's how it's always looked to me. I bet nearly everyone has some sort of food they are sensitive to if they really think about it. I can't do shellfish. I don't think I've ever told a restaurant. I have asked things like, "hey can I get something other than shrimp in this," particularly something like where there's some shrimp on the side. If they say yes, great! It's honestly more of the notion of I'd rather not toss some perfectly good food they could have just left unprepared in the kitchen. If I order something with it in it accidentally, I pick the fuck around it. Big deal.

If you've really got a keel over and die food allergy, I would suggest learning to cook. I'd also suggest looking into some sort of allergy therapy because I've seen enough things that it's possible to get to where you could at least be around it. I don't want to hear some bullshit, "you can't open a package of peanuts near me or I'll die."