I suspect that part of it might've also evolved as a result of the number of people in very long-term committed relationships that still opt to not get married. I know a fair number of people who've done this, and I could see why utilizing a different title for it might seem natural to them.
IE, "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" might sound insufficient after being together for so long (especially since those can be more synonymous with new or short term relationships) and descriptors like "lover" give off their own off-key vibes.
That's where it actually came from. It wasn't solidarity with the gays, it was unmarried straight couples who wanted the recognition of their relationship without actually marrying. Gays adopted it from them, not the other way around. People forget that the LGBetc movement is the latecomer to the post-sexual revolution world. Unmarried heterosexual "partners" was a point of contention long before anyone gave a shit about what the gays thought.
It wasn't until the 90s that there was any serious consideration by the public of gay monogamy at all. That's when you really start seeing the concept of the domestic gay who "wants a relationship like yours, only gay." Prior to that, there was a common understanding that gay relationships were basically just playing at it, in reality being either sexually deviant men, or sexless dead-ends for troubled women. They didn't even have a use for the term until then, and it didn't find actual use in a gay context until the 00s with gay marriage.
"I now pronounce you partners, you may kiss each other" does NOT sound romantic.
And that's the point. Removal of romance and beauty.
I suspect that part of it might've also evolved as a result of the number of people in very long-term committed relationships that still opt to not get married. I know a fair number of people who've done this, and I could see why utilizing a different title for it might seem natural to them.
IE, "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" might sound insufficient after being together for so long (especially since those can be more synonymous with new or short term relationships) and descriptors like "lover" give off their own off-key vibes.
That's where it actually came from. It wasn't solidarity with the gays, it was unmarried straight couples who wanted the recognition of their relationship without actually marrying. Gays adopted it from them, not the other way around. People forget that the LGBetc movement is the latecomer to the post-sexual revolution world. Unmarried heterosexual "partners" was a point of contention long before anyone gave a shit about what the gays thought.
It wasn't until the 90s that there was any serious consideration by the public of gay monogamy at all. That's when you really start seeing the concept of the domestic gay who "wants a relationship like yours, only gay." Prior to that, there was a common understanding that gay relationships were basically just playing at it, in reality being either sexually deviant men, or sexless dead-ends for troubled women. They didn't even have a use for the term until then, and it didn't find actual use in a gay context until the 00s with gay marriage.