Need women out of the tower even more than off the flight deck. ATC is a more demanding job than pilot, especially an airline crew of two where they can split duties. Listen to them screech and panic.

I'm a licensed pilot, albeit with much less experience than any airline pilot. The only time an ATC ever gave me the impression they were overwhelmed, it was a woman. It's not a job they are fit for. There's rude ATC, there's amazingly good ATC, but a pilot feeling like ATC is overwhelmed is rare. I was really only skirting their control area and it was a clusterfuck, so I just changed course a bit and left their area. On the other hand, I've had competent controllers on a busy channel be so situationally aware that they advise me of traffic in my area, despite me putzing around VFR in a small plane not near the busy airport and that not being a requirement or priority for them to do so.