I believe this person falls into a category I've been developing. I call this the narcissistic man cave fixation scenario. Let me explain in as much detail as I can.

You and a man get along well. Well enough that you two decide to share a domicile. More than likely his, as you value a man who can provide. So, a man let you into his home. You do not like anything in it, other than the man. You slowly change everything he likes, in his own home, from every room until he says "No, not that room, that's mine. You already have the rest of the house, leave me this one room."

And he'll decorate it in a way you absolutely despise, full of all the things he enjoys. As noted when you enter and shudder and tell him to change it. And he never does. As you have the rest of the house, and it's his room to feel special in, since he seems to no longer have control over his own home's decoration. Your tastes are not his, and his tastes are not yours. Neither the two shall meet. Trying to adjust someone's tastes is difficult when you have only disdain for it, rather than appreciate it's eccentrics and differences, at the very least. But you cannot do that. Everything must be yours, have your touch, be your own, or it's hated by you. Which by the way, says so much about you.

( Now to the discussion at hand, and what it has to do with the above. )

Your argument does not explain why people will hire a model, male or female, and they'll be scanned digitally into a game, and the women will always have butterface, whereas the men won't. With the exception of asian devs and actual skilled western devs from years ago. And don't give me that it's makeup that's the problem. Tell the model to not wear anything on their face to get the best possible scan. Then do another with makeup to prove that's not what it is. But you won't. We know it's not a skill issue, it's intentional uglification.

This also does not explain the way that men are thrown into a subservient role around the new usurper character, typically a female. Who we know next to nothing about, but yet knows how to do everything better than anyone who we've actually seen struggle to get to the point they're at with their knowledge or technical knowhow they have. While this new girl just runs circles around them like it's all easy. Bonus points if it's never shown or explained why she can do those things effortlessly. And everyone just goes along with it, and stops caring about what happens to the guy. There is likely some fantasy at play there from the writer that more than likely came from the 'and everyone clapped' tumblr nonsense, but I'd rather not pigeonhole someone into a corner with an assumption. They could just be a shitty writer.

Beauty standards exist because people like attractive people. This isn't rocket science. If you're ugly, life is harder. If you're not, life is easier. It's absolutely shitty, but we all do this. We've done this since the dawn of time when our extreme ancestors fucked the evolution world over by realizing that rocks can be thrown, and it gets you what you want.

As we've seen over and over, anything that anything bad happens to a guy in media is his fault, and anything bad that happens to a woman seemingly for no reason at all, happens to all women and you can't have her in a bad way or bad light or women are now all angry that they are somehow affected by this media portrayal of every women on the planet, even though it should be obvious to anyone over the age of ten that's not the intention being portrayed. You have to intentionally self insert, and get mad at this in order to be this way. Which only points out that men think "Hey, this guy is cool, he knows a lot of cool shit. I'd like to be more like that. Look at what he suffered through and bettered himself from." Whereas girls think "This is me. I am this character. Anything that happens to this character will wound me like it wounds them." And bluntly, that's massively fucking retarded.

What I think is missed a lot by this type of argument is that for the most part the guy in a movie or video game that knows how to solve a problem is typically listened to because of their credentials and past experience. Not just because he's a male.

When you show us some new girl that can hypothetically cartwheel on a treadmill while doing algebra in her head, and fix an issue with some engine by throwing a wrench at the apex of her jump and have the open end tighten a nut or bolt, is not at all the same as someone being shown training for half their life to get to where they are now and knowing how to deal with an issue based on past experience that we witnessed them learning from and doing.

The only part I agree with is developers should be free to do as they intend, free from the shackles of consultants and other "I know better than you about this" sort of bullshit that is infecting all media. But they did not mean creative freedom in that sense, they meant it entirely as ugly women can do things too. No one is saying they can't. Bluntly, I just don't want to fucking see it in my fantasy escapism.

In conclusion: You see what is not yours, what does not appeal to you, and rather than live and let live, you choose to fix something that does not need fixing. It appeals to people who are not you. You never liked it, you didn't enjoy it, but you had to change it to better suit you. Further, you either can't tell reality from fantasy, or you're being intentionally troubled by actions in media that are not happening to you, in a fictional setting, that you have fixated on as your enemy, even though you have imprinted yourself onto it, and you've got so little in your life to complain about that you like to make others as miserable as you are by ruining things they enjoy.

TL;DR: Get fucked, leave things alone.