https://rumble.com/v4ng5sr-njf-on-marriage.html
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summary:
- you can't take risks
- you can't trade your comfort for resources toward a greater goal
- women have absolute legal power
- women have no obligations or duties in how they behave
- most of the masculinity exhibited by married men is performative and trivial
- every mechanism to control a wife's behavior is seen as "abuse"
Even knowing all of this, and generally agreeing with it, I still think the costs and sacrifices are worth it as long as you go in for the purposes of having children. Unless you are an incel genius like Isaac Newton or Nikolai Tesla then producing those children and doing your best to impart your values on to them, in spite of everything arrayed against you, is your "greater purpose".
I would say that you're being conservative and optimistic in the ages for men. I would suggest that things become difficult when you hit your 30's (there is no "fine wine" moment for men unless you want to become a sugar daddy) and impossible by your 40's. Particularly for long term single men. We know that middle aged divorced men have better outcomes in dating compared to their long term single peers and we also know that if a man is unmarried at 40, he's likely to remain unmarried (as well as not father a child or even find a partner).