https://rumble.com/v4ng5sr-njf-on-marriage.html
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summary:
- you can't take risks
- you can't trade your comfort for resources toward a greater goal
- women have absolute legal power
- women have no obligations or duties in how they behave
- most of the masculinity exhibited by married men is performative and trivial
- every mechanism to control a wife's behavior is seen as "abuse"
Even knowing all of this, and generally agreeing with it, I still think the costs and sacrifices are worth it as long as you go in for the purposes of having children. Unless you are an incel genius like Isaac Newton or Nikolai Tesla then producing those children and doing your best to impart your values on to them, in spite of everything arrayed against you, is your "greater purpose".
That's because there is no help.
One of the things I used to ask often many years ago in atheist forums was "What's the point of living if you're poor and ugly and with no future? It would be better to just commit suicide"
They used to have a conniption at this suggestion, because in their mind that was absolutely unacceptable. But that's because they couldn't see beyond their own ego: in their mind, if people aren't completely living for the self and staying alive to please the self, it was abhorrent to think about taking your own life if things were rotten.
Well, the reality is that life is rotten for a vast majority of people and it never gets better... ever. I used to tell people "If you don't believe in God and your life is beyond repair, it's better to just commit suicide and spare yourself any agony. If you don't believe in an afterlife, you're not losing anything, you're just sparing yourself a lifetime of more agony."
And this is the irrefutable truth: if you don't believe in anything and you don't believe in an afterlife, and your life is pure bollocks, and it's not getting better, there is literally nothing lost via suicide. This is a hard and uncomfortable truth for a lot of people and they refuse to address the existential crisis of an irreparable or unrecoverable life for someone who is permanently disabled, permanently disfigured, permanently impoverished, etc.
That's why a lot of people put faith in religion, because for those who were born into conditions where they were dealt an unfavourable hand, it's the only thing they have to live for -- thinking that there is salvation in the afterlife for being obedient/saved. Otherwise, you don't lose anything by not being here if every aspect of your life is rotten.