https://rumble.com/v4ng5sr-njf-on-marriage.html
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summary:
- you can't take risks
- you can't trade your comfort for resources toward a greater goal
- women have absolute legal power
- women have no obligations or duties in how they behave
- most of the masculinity exhibited by married men is performative and trivial
- every mechanism to control a wife's behavior is seen as "abuse"
Even knowing all of this, and generally agreeing with it, I still think the costs and sacrifices are worth it as long as you go in for the purposes of having children. Unless you are an incel genius like Isaac Newton or Nikolai Tesla then producing those children and doing your best to impart your values on to them, in spite of everything arrayed against you, is your "greater purpose".
I would disagree with your assessment. Kids are not worth sacrificing yourself for. There's a reason our society is in a state of dysgenics. IQs are down irrespective of immigration and every metric that matters in outcomes is coming down. The men who are having kids and who are willing to sacrifice their liberty to submit to a woman in order to have kids are among the lowest quality men in society. The highest quality men are not engaged in relationships with women. You know who reproduces in significant numbers? Africans and Indians. Are those quality humans?
If the state of marriage and relationships isn't fixed, we're going to continue to degenerate as a species.