The thing your (excellent) analysis lacks is the sacrifice of motherhood a girl must make to "Be a Man".

Being a Man is performative. It is shown by demonstration.

To achieve the skills and attitude, to demonstrate the male virtues a woman must GIVE UP the chance of a family and children.

Feminists idolise the virtues of capability, independence and earning-power that a good man should demonstrate. For a woman to have a career and earn manly money, she attends university (or trade school) and then develops her professional skills to advance her career.

She graduates university at 23 (after fucking like a man) and then gets stuck into her career. Nine short years later she is 32 and her time is up. Her chance of getting pregnant halves every year until it vanishes. All pregnancies after 32 are considered, medically, to be a geriatric pregnancy.

As a work-around, many women decided to sperm-jack some poor sap, or, just as bad, "settle" for a man beneath her for just long enough to have a kid before she kicks him out five years later. This dooms her to a life of (relative) poverty. A two parent household earns about twice as much as a single parent household. She can either neglect her kids and earn money, or be poor as fuck. Pick one.

Women, in general, make shitty men. They don't earn as much, they don't do dirty jobs and they neglect their biological role of mother. Even Mulan, in the movie, could not beat any of her fellow soldiers in tests of strength or speed. She was clever and resourceful, but that wasn't really enough. Her team had to carry her.

Destruction of the family is an explicit goal of Marxism and the Neo-Marxist movement of feminism.

tldr; For a young woman to pursue the male virtues and to demonstrate manly characteristics in society requires her to sacrifice her chance at a family.