They want children and a partner with net positive in assets with which that can support a budding family. The problem is how conditioned they have become to believe that's a bad thing for some God forsaken reason. Companionship is one thing, but that's just a biproduct. The end result is the entire reason for hooking up.

Now all they can do is perform mental gymnastics to say what they want without saying what they mean, which results in a complete breakdown in logic.