What really grinds my fucking gears about the conversation around this is right wingers especially take the approach of simping for women and blaming men.

Meh, that's not really an agreed upon stance. I for instance think that rolling women back to little more than property is probably what it's going to take to fix things rather than pretend things have been fixed. The stop gap measures that are practical are more along the lines of banning women from the internet and destroying all of social media rather than some nonsense of "just be more alpha bro".