the question is why low-value men are lashing out at females if they want to appeal more to them?

This one is easy.

Women are fucking weak. They cry at the slightest threat, and their bodies are made to be tossed around. "Low-value" is a social standing, artificial. At any moment those labeled "low-value" males could simply stop playing by the rules and physically remind the women that they are weak and much "lower" on the totem pole than even the most pathetic male. But because its in a video game they can't actually physically do that, so they verbally shit out impotent anger and threats.

Its basic return to monke shit. You tear down the person who thinks themselves above you in the hierarchy because you know you can while not even bothering against the ones you know you can't, whereas the person secure in their standing has no reason to even care.