Original post: https://www.aaronrenn.com/p/stop-shaming-men
Archive post: https://archive.ph/JzmQy
It’s one of the most well known facts in social science that women initiate the vast majority of divorces – around 70% or so depending on the source you look at. It’s a fact I have never heard an evangelical pastor mention. In fact, as one feminist scholar found in her academic research, in evangelical sermons ‘women are framed primarily as receivers of divorce rather than initiators.’ And, while there have been improvements, divorce court and child custody practices still favor women. . . . It’s also worth asking what Blake – and by extension the rest of the evangelical leadership class – are doing to reduce these risks, help men manage them, or to create an environment in which men have a better chance of marital success. The answer is basically nothing. . . . They could tell men, “Get married and we’ve got your back.” But they don’t. Instead, should some man actually get married and any troubles arise, they will almost certainly blame him for it.”
Evangelicals, is there nothing they can't fuck up?
Tell him what my father told me when I was 13, pray that the Lord lead you to a good wife and help you along the way. I definitely was guided and won the lottery with my wife. I gave the same advice to both my sons. I'd love to say they followed it to the letter, but they both got married more because they were afraid they'd never find the right woman. One definitely found his soulmate. She's far from perfect but they definitely go together. The other, the jury is still out, and we have had our moments of concern that she'll bail for purely selfish reasons.