The women who are truly good are usually the ones who formed relationships with a childhood sweetheart in high school or if they do break up, are back in a relationship quickly before they get anywhere near a dating site. The women I know anecdotally who are single either have mental health issues that they will openly admit or are proactively never going to date again, usually because they are fixated on the positive aspects of an ex who no other man could ever best, never mind emulate or are too old and can't be bothered with it.

The current state of the dating market is grim for the average man and if you're below average and have any single deficiency such as being unattractive, out of shape, poor, lack of relationship experience (pre-selection) when you are older, speech impediment, neuroatypical condition, are not independent, unstable career prospects and so forth, all it takes is one single characteristic to be rejected and you may as well not bother. The hit on self-esteem and your mental being is not worth it. A lot of these things are genetic - within your DNA - and can't be improved by "just lift bro", "just touch grass bro" and "just shoot your shot bro" as coaches, gurus and evolutionary psychologists like to spout ad nauseam.