I will say that you should be very cautious about falling into the trap of confusing "grooming", "brainwashing", and "indoctrination" with "raising kids" and "moral development".

Fundamentally, you should never indoctrinate, groom, or brainwash your kid. This is because each of those are about imposing a kind of ideological framework. You are trying to instill an ideology AS a moral framework. However, ideologies are not good for any moral analysis. Raising a kid means actually buildling a moral framework for them so that they can address moral dilemmas as they appear. An ideology presupposes the answer to all moral dilemmas by algorithmic calculation.