I just don't know if I could forgive people like that if they don't speak out.

Well that's the thing, I don't think I can forgive them either, but I can at least be understanding and sorry for the predicament, even if they put themselves in that situation. Which is why I also don't blame any individual for not wanting to constantly bring up something which could be legitimately traumatic (and I hate the fact using that word makes me feel like it's SocJus language when they've just twisted it so much). For many that don't speak up or even try to defend their abortions, I think it's a coping mechanism to avoid the reality of having to come to terms with the reality that they chose to end an innocent life, because having to face such a reality could utterly destroy them from the inside.