But that doesn't fit the mainstream narrative of Chad good, Virgin bad. Society places a value judgement on men based on their ability to attract a mate and we look at men who succeed in finding a partner in a better light than the man who consistently fails

"Society" didn't do this until it became dominated by female values. The whole "men are valued by the ability to attract a women" is basically applying female sexual preference as a core value to the whole population.

It's a bullshit value, of course, but very few people understand it for what it is. As a female value, it corrupts men in many ways in their attempts to become "attractive to women", ultimately turning them into servants of women. From being pussy-worshipping Chads who spend hours of their time becoming better that "gaming" women to obtain a bunch of empty sex to satisfy female sexual urges, to pussy-worshipping incels who take everything women say at face value and fall flat on their faces, but in doing so providing emotional tampons and plenty of other free services to women.

This is why the concept of MGTOW is so powerful - it completely undermines this female-imposed value system and allows men to start valuing themselves for other reasons.