Yeah, I figured you're trying to make a cross-facet comparison for my advice, which is why I added the little extra clarification.
Take relationships for example. There's realistic expectations for what a man or woman can get and there's unrealistic expectations. It's not about changing your expectations because people can't really do this and especially for relationships. If you want something, then that's what you want. Just don't go on 1000s of dates and spend tons of money/effort chasing the unrealistic expectations because you're being scammed doing so. Guys or girls that "simp" for someone thinking that this will get them their unrealistic expectations tend to just get scammed.
However, I would still say there's nothing wrong with advocating for changes to the system. For example, if you want to be a Hollywood Writer, which is an unrealistic expectation, there's nothing wrong with suggesting that perhaps Intellectual Property laws needs to change in order to remove a lot of the monopoly power Hollywood has on the industry to improve the competition such that being a Hollywood writer becomes less important because non-Hollywood media productions start to gain much higher market share. Now you've found a way to meet your unrealistic expectations by changing the nature of the game.
In relationships this might be suggesting banning women from the workforce. Such a structural change would have dramatic impacts to relationships and may improve someone's chance of meeting their unrealistic expectations. Since such advocacy doesn't cost someone $50k-$250k, that's a much better approach than paying an onlyfans girl $50k in hopes she marries the guy.
The logistical execution and continuation makes it unrealistic. You’re thinking you can wave a magic wand to make something happen, just like an amateur writer believes they can become Hollywood famous because they wrote a short story
In this specific example: if you think you'll be Hollywood famous because you wrote a short story, that's a problem. If you write a short-story to try to become Hollywood famous, that's fine. The problem is spending 4 years of your life and $50-250k to learn something you didn't even need to in order to try to become Hollywood famous, something that was unrealistic in the first place. At least writing a short story is presumably something you like doing and it's not really costing you anything. That's a free option then so why not try for your goals, even if unrealistic?
The scam is in having to spend time, effort and money first, presumably as a prerequisite before you can get something when that something is unrealistic in the first place. It's the same scam dating coaches sell to men. "Pay me money first so I can teach you special knowledge so you can start having sex with hot women". That's a scam. Just like paying for an education to become a Hollywood writer is a scam. Both these outcomes are things that don't require special knowledge to do and both these things are unrealistic outcomes for most people. The people who realistically can get either of these options will already have the options available to them without any special knowledge.
Yeah, I figured you're trying to make a cross-facet comparison for my advice, which is why I added the little extra clarification.
Take relationships for example. There's realistic expectations for what a man or woman can get and there's unrealistic expectations. It's not about changing your expectations because people can't really do this and especially for relationships. If you want something, then that's what you want. Just don't go on 1000s of dates and spend tons of money/effort chasing the unrealistic expectations because you're being scammed doing so. Guys or girls that "simp" for someone thinking that this will get them their unrealistic expectations tend to just get scammed.
However, I would still say there's nothing wrong with advocating for changes to the system. For example, if you want to be a Hollywood Writer, which is an unrealistic expectation, there's nothing wrong with suggesting that perhaps Intellectual Property laws needs to change in order to remove a lot of the monopoly power Hollywood has on the industry to improve the competition such that being a Hollywood writer becomes less important because non-Hollywood media productions start to gain much higher market share. Now you've found a way to meet your unrealistic expectations by changing the nature of the game.
In relationships this might be suggesting banning women from the workforce. Such a structural change would have dramatic impacts to relationships and may improve someone's chance of meeting their unrealistic expectations. Since such advocacy doesn't cost someone $50k-$250k, that's a much better approach than paying an onlyfans girl $50k in hopes she marries the guy.
I think you haven’t really thought things through
In what regard?
The logistical execution and continuation makes it unrealistic. You’re thinking you can wave a magic wand to make something happen, just like an amateur writer believes they can become Hollywood famous because they wrote a short story
Not what I'm saying though.
In this specific example: if you think you'll be Hollywood famous because you wrote a short story, that's a problem. If you write a short-story to try to become Hollywood famous, that's fine. The problem is spending 4 years of your life and $50-250k to learn something you didn't even need to in order to try to become Hollywood famous, something that was unrealistic in the first place. At least writing a short story is presumably something you like doing and it's not really costing you anything. That's a free option then so why not try for your goals, even if unrealistic?
The scam is in having to spend time, effort and money first, presumably as a prerequisite before you can get something when that something is unrealistic in the first place. It's the same scam dating coaches sell to men. "Pay me money first so I can teach you special knowledge so you can start having sex with hot women". That's a scam. Just like paying for an education to become a Hollywood writer is a scam. Both these outcomes are things that don't require special knowledge to do and both these things are unrealistic outcomes for most people. The people who realistically can get either of these options will already have the options available to them without any special knowledge.