The so called "light side" of the force is based around deception and lies. Have you ever seen a sith use the mind trick? No, only the jedi do that, and they blame their victims by calling them weak minded. That is, if the "mind trick" is even real, it sounds to me like they're just falsifying witness testimony.

What's the "dark side" exclusive power? Force lightning. Nothing deceitful about that, it's just "I'm shooting you with lightning now", the sith always put their cards on the table and own up to their actions.

In The Phantom Menace, they jedi council sends two of their stooges to fight one sith. Darth Maul then announces his presence and fights them both at the same time, meeting their treachery with honor.

When order 66 is executed, regular ass soldiers easily mow down all the so-called jedi because they're not warrior wizards, they're just political appointees here to oppress your rights and falsify records in the interest of the council.

The force is female because it's based on politics and manipulation and does not understand the concept of honor. As soon as the political winds blow a different way, all the jedi either turn with it or crumple in.