I figured it would be interesting/ enlightening to hear from users who have found happy relationships in modern society and how they met. I know how much we love to make hating posts on the stupidity of modernity, but posts from guys that have successfully found stable relationships despite the cultural zeitgeist is just as important/ informative.
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Soft-engaged for a year, ring-engaged for another, will be 5 years married soon. Met at a wedding (boring I know). Chatting with a friend in a group of people and he told them a story about me. I was getting my wisdom teeth pulled, the surgeon was running real late and I hadn't eaten for 12 hours by that point (I was pretty fucking fat). I was practically passed on in the waiting room chair and a girl entered and he suggested I give up my seat for her and I told him to go fuck himself. "Ooh, a real life chauvinist!" was my now wife's reaction.
At the time it was still "LOL Trump running for president? Fucking do it, it'll be a gas" in the normie zeitgeist. Had the wedding been even a year later I'm sure I would have been kicked out of the reception hall. I remember being asked a bunch of questions like I was a zoo animal (not just from her, from the people that didn't know me or my friend) and I had enough to drink that I was just basically cross referencing Married With Children hot takes and throwing them out for a laugh but wound up making some new friends.
Got big into board games so having a little group was pretty good. From game performance I think she got the idea that you can be wrong about some things and right about other things, and eventually she realized I wasn't wrong about some things she thought I was wrong about. We were pretty evenly matched, and eventually she would tell me that she appreciated me hitting her with all I've got instead of taking it easy on her Because Girl like others in the group did.
My future wife would go toe-to-toe with me in versus games and we were pretty evenly matched overall but some games she was just better at and some I was just better at, so we each would try to poke at each other to break through. As the political rhetoric around TDS grew, eventually "the group" would became "just us" and, well, one night a game of War of the Ring was resolved by, let's just say a treaty.
When we met she was pretty liberal but then again so was I a while ago, helped her think things out with an assist from just how many lunatics there are on the left. I think that's pretty key, you can't discuss or address anything without being honest about what the problem really is and that extends to all the things that come with a marriage.
She helped encourage me to take better care of myself and lose most of my weight and didn't try to sabotage my efforts like previous girlfriends that were either fat or skinny-fat and coasting on naturally putting on weight.
Together I think there's just a trust we have for each other, and a mutual understanding and respect. We're going to each approach things in our way and if it's not in opposition to something important, just let it be. When people see things like "man cave" and call it a cuckening, I see it as it makes my wife happy to have an electronics-free living area and since I've got plenty of space to myself anyway, and can see her point about it being a little distracting, I don't care to fight it. When she does the laundry and people call her a Stepford Wife she knows I'm straight up not going to fold anything I don't think needs folding like socks so she does it because she wants things tidy. (And maybe to check for lipstick & make up on my collar I guess.)
Covok's list is pretty good. The only thing I would add that compromise being something where no one walks away happy is mostly a factor of how much you care about it. Conceding something that doesn't really matter never really represented a loss.