I figured it would be interesting/ enlightening to hear from users who have found happy relationships in modern society and how they met. I know how much we love to make hating posts on the stupidity of modernity, but posts from guys that have successfully found stable relationships despite the cultural zeitgeist is just as important/ informative.
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Been married for 16 years & were engaged for 2. Basically our relationship is old enough to smoke.
Met 20 years ago in college. We shared a class, but never spoke to each other. She quietly admired that I was an outspoken Conservative Christian. A year and a half later we shared another elective class and became lab partners. A month later we became a couple and a little later we were engaged the rest of college.
A couple of points that made this work this long:
We both filtered by religion/politics before it was cool. In fact it was heavily frowned upon in the early-mid 2000s.
We were not adamant Christians but we had that background and were open to it. This would save our marriage later.
We had defined gender role expectations for the other. If neither of us didn’t like it, we needed to find someone else.
She had to give up some of her time/space demands of me; I had to give up some of my excessive alone time.
We fought mean to each other, but would do exactly what the other wanted later...quietly.
Addictions are slow poison for a relationship. Make sure you’re working to fix them.
Resentment = relationship death. Keep it to a minimum.
If you’re hiding it from your spouse, you shouldn’t be doing it.
You either want kids or you don’t.
We like each other’s physical company. Physical presence is ultimately going to make or break it. Make sure ya’ll are good in person.