If the man doesn't do all of this she sees it as a sign he's bad at sex.
Not to mention that, thanks to the mainstream overpresence of things like 50 Shades, you now need to be at least somewhat capable of BDSM mind games and physical acts as a base just to keep up with her reading list and previous sexual encounters.
Don't feel comfortable smacking, biting, and roughing a woman up on the first date? You won't get the time to get there because she already decided you suck and called her shit ex she whined about all night to do it for you.
Not to mention that, thanks to the mainstream overpresence of things like 50 Shades, you now need to be at least somewhat capable of BDSM mind games and physical acts as a base just to keep up with her reading list and previous sexual encounters.
Don't feel comfortable smacking, biting, and roughing a woman up on the first date? You won't get the time to get there because she already decided you suck and called her shit ex she whined about all night to do it for you.