who can't tell the difference between trash talking

Women don't know what trash talking is.

There are only two instances in women's life where they shit talk someone. Mean Girls style to tear them down with actual malice and obsession, and sexually to get their masochism rocks off. They cannot understand men's ability to either shit talk with affection, or shit talk random idiots with little care behind it.

So when a guy is attacking them online, he must actually hate her and want her destroyed. Because she is associating it to what she understands, which is that high school mean girl bullshit she knows.

The one's who "get it" did so after years of learning, and probably a lot of being bullied gently by their boyfriends until they had to get over it.