The men, on the other hand, on average just seem to lack the “it” factor. Not poorly dressed or drab, but meh. Often kind of boring, to be honest. Not great with conversation — though they try. Don’t seem particularly interesting.

Basically: men that are perfectly reasonable to start a relationship with, but she doesn't want to because she doesn't really understand how to build a relationship, and she doesn't want to work at building one.

She wants to be "swept off her feet" by a rich, powerful, socialite that she was told would be available for her at the end of her career. In reality, she found successful men who were successful, not because they were inherently excellent, but because they worked more than socialized, and come off slightly awkward.

And that shit's just an absolute no-go. If she's not wet, then out the door with you.