This might apply less if your brain is less broken than mine. Like, I’ve only just realized that having had three different Facebook accounts in the last 11 or so years (starting over again each time) is considered highly unusual, to most people… As is not having a “professional” career. As is being a “loner”/not really having a friend group. As is being perpetually single in your twenties. As is not having a degree. So…
I’m well aware that I’m far from “the norm”.
But holy fuck. I don’t think I’ve ever felt so alienated from “normal society”, or so… Fucking isolated. Even compared to during lockdowns… Everyone I know is getting married, having kids, expressing the same damn opinions, and just generally… Moving on a path that I’m not sure I can follow…
I’ve tried. I’ve really, really tried, but it’s just like… When everyone around you says and thinks the same (apparently), and follows the same damn path, and then doesn’t include you in it (most hurtful thing: fucking none of them inviting me to their weddings. Not even my “best friend” growing up), it’s easy to feel like some sort of crazy freak…
Things seem to be getting more and more like this, too. Like, with how far away, collectively, society gets from its “roots”, or any sort of… Moral grounding, it’s hard not to feel like the crazy one…
I dunno. I’m spiralling. Today has been another reminder that I’m just… Probably not able to keep going, unfortunately.
But it’s hard not to already feel like I’m pushing against a giant wave of wacky bullshit that everyone else is more than happy to go along with, even if some of us drown in it along the way. 😔
I'd take that as a sign that they weren't really your friends to begin and exposed themselves.
Either way, as you get older, you don't have as many friends (if at all). Even your own friends are going there separate ways.
INB4 TheImp, but this is why you find a good woman that you can spend the rest of your life with. You don't have to marry, but you're gonna want someone around.
Your self-talk sounds like shit. You gotta fix that because it's gonna make you depressed and the more time you spend alone, the more it matters.
Here's a link to the audio book of Cernovich's, "Gorilla Mindset". Just sit through and listen to the first few chapters.
https://youtu.be/Fjh5gknoRb4
The TL;DW is that, you wouldn't talk to a friend like how you talk to yourself, so learn to view and rephrase things in a positive manner.
If you're a NEET, you gotta change that.
Pick up a trade like plumbing or electrician. About a year or two's worth of learning and you can make a good living.
Save your money and put it towards investments. Keep reinvesting those profits, too.
Also, hit the gym. You've heard this a million times by now so I won't go any deeper, but it's true.
Looking good = feeling good.
You’re probably right about the friends thing. However that raises the conundrum that all my friendships did that. Which means what? I had no real friends? Is that it? That’s the shatter point…
Admittedly, that should have been clear when I moved away, and barely heard from any of them again, but I’m the common factor there. That’s the particularly shitty thing about it…
But yeah, I’ve never gone out of my way to catch up with any of these people again, after they left me out. I’ll say that much.
Hence the isolation, though. 🤷🏻♂️
Would you treat your friends like they treated you? If not, were they really your friends or was your "friendship" contingent on something superficial?
For example, if you had lots of money, you'd have lots of friends because you're spending that money with them. But the moment you can no longer make money, they'll disappear from your life. Those people aren't "friends".
No, I would never have treated them the way they treated me. And yeah, that's pretty much it. "Oh, you're depressed? Nah, that's too hard. Bye now."
Or, "Oh, you're still not married? You still don't own a house?". Nah, don't really want to talk to you...
"Friends", hey?
If I ever get married, I probably won't even do a ceremony, because those are the kind of people I know (mostly), unfortunately.
At this point, fuck 'em.