Cultural differences aside (home ownership is even more cultish here), I didn’t realize how much people who own homes/have a mortgage look down on those who don’t, until recently…
I have (supposed) friends who repeatedly do this, buying and selling around the place (because realistically the only affordable places are regional shitholes, but at least they are property owners now, right??), family who literally think that choosing to have a million-dollar mortgage, for a house in the middle of nowhere, with a ridiculous commute to their job, makes them “superior” to those of us who cannot do that…
Or then there’s my grandmother, who literally referred to one of her own daughters (not my mother) as a “failure” for living in a rental, and not home-owning…
This whole thing is a fucking cult, regardless of country…
So yeah, this policy is fucking insane, but so is our entire “attitude” towards home ownership/mortgage-slavery, where $1 million-plus mortgages even in/near shit cities is somehow considered an acceptable outcome…
This shit kills me, and yet even the people I grew up with who claimed to be “alternative” are right up in all this shit, now that we’ve hit our late twenties.
“Get degree, get second degree [ideally], get married, have kid, buy house.”
Cultural differences aside (home ownership is even more cultish here), I didn’t realize how much people who own homes/have a mortgage look down on those who don’t, until recently…
I have (supposed) friends who repeatedly do this, buying and selling around the place (because realistically the only affordable places are regional shitholes, but at least they are property owners now, right??), family who literally think that choosing to have a million-dollar mortgage, for a house in the middle of nowhere, with a ridiculous commute to their job, makes them “superior” to those of us who cannot do that…
Or then there’s my grandmother, who literally referred to one of her own daughters (not my mother) as a “failure” for living in a rental, and not home-owning…
This whole thing is a fucking cult, regardless of country…
So yeah, this policy is fucking insane, but so is our entire “attitude” towards home ownership/mortgage-slavery, where $1 million-plus mortgages even in/near shit cities is somehow considered an acceptable outcome…
This shit kills me, and yet even the people I grew up with who claimed to be “alternative” are right up in all this shit, now that we’ve hit our late twenties.
“Get degree, get second degree [ideally], get married, have kid, buy house.”
Nice if you can get it.
Your grandmother sounds like a winner.
It's not a cult. It's just good advice: grow up, prove you're responsible enough to take care of your own goddamn place, and buy a home.
Unfortunately, idiotic (or, more probably, diabolical) moves like these have made it extremely difficult for some people to get started.