Simply getting attention from women is not the same as being held in high regard by them. It's like how progressive simpery for minorities is not the same as respect towards them. It's highly conditional and dependent on the behaviour of the target. So if the gay guy keeps reminding them all that he lacks a normal heterosexual sex drive, by acting out as 'one of the girls', then he's a great social toy for the group and they can cross physical boundaries with no tradeoff considered. I knew a girl who once asked her male gay friend if she could hold his dick while he took a piss, to see what it felt like - that's not high regard, it's fetishisation.

A faggot who acts butch or normal would be less likely to get this kind of attention, since he's not providing the reminder of what he lacks. I've known several camp/gay guys who I faintly pitied, because I see them as missing something essential. Same way I pity black guys in interracial porn or those who date serial misceginators, because they don't realise or don't care that they're being fucked by a woman who sees them as less of a man and more like a dog or a monkey.