Things can't "just be" because if someone judges a behavior that has been "normalized" then the people engaging in that behavior ask (then demand) that they not be judged.
Then once people stop judging a behavior, why wouldn't those who engage in it want more people to join in? If you enjoy a thing, you usually want to share that enjoyment with others.
People who think football is good encourage it, people who think diversity is good encourage it, people who think gay sex is good encourage it. If those people happen to be teachers at a school, who are they going to encourage? And if the teacher encouraging gay sex is told to stop: "Why are you singling me out? You let the teacher encourage the kids to play football! Stop judging me!"
If you don't want this to happen, then you discourage a behavior and punish those who attempt to encourage it. And when someone says "stop judging me!" you answer "no" and feel no guilt about it.
As for football, we'll probably see a widespread discouragement of playing football in American high schools before we see a widespread discouragement of gay sex. And the people who enjoy it will say "stop judging me!" and those doing the discouraging will answer "no" and feel no guilt about it.
I don't like that this is the way things seem to operate, but it seems to be how they do. And I'd rather face reality than fight it.
No it's a very basic observation that people respond to feedback, be it positive or negative. And in the absence of feedback, people drift toward their own tendencies; and those tendencies can change over time in the continued absence of feedback.
Things can't "just be" because if someone judges a behavior that has been "normalized" then the people engaging in that behavior ask (then demand) that they not be judged.
Then once people stop judging a behavior, why wouldn't those who engage in it want more people to join in? If you enjoy a thing, you usually want to share that enjoyment with others.
People who think football is good encourage it, people who think diversity is good encourage it, people who think gay sex is good encourage it. If those people happen to be teachers at a school, who are they going to encourage? And if the teacher encouraging gay sex is told to stop: "Why are you singling me out? You let the teacher encourage the kids to play football! Stop judging me!"
If you don't want this to happen, then you discourage a behavior and punish those who attempt to encourage it. And when someone says "stop judging me!" you answer "no" and feel no guilt about it.
As for football, we'll probably see a widespread discouragement of playing football in American high schools before we see a widespread discouragement of gay sex. And the people who enjoy it will say "stop judging me!" and those doing the discouraging will answer "no" and feel no guilt about it.
I don't like that this is the way things seem to operate, but it seems to be how they do. And I'd rather face reality than fight it.
this is the same mentality as that "everything is political" bullshit
No it's a very basic observation that people respond to feedback, be it positive or negative. And in the absence of feedback, people drift toward their own tendencies; and those tendencies can change over time in the continued absence of feedback.