The only time redditors believe in privacy is when it can be used to brainwash/groom/molest kids
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From my own experiences growing up, I'm of a mixed mind on this. I'm a firm believer that over coddling your children and protecting them from making mistakes can very much hurt them in the long run. And encouraging an environment of distrust only creates further rifts and conflict.
Now there are absolutely exceptions to this, when the consequences of those mistakes are almost certainly going to have permanent ramifications, or when they are clearly forming going to form a pattern of mistakes where they have no intention to learn from them and make smarter decisions.
However not allowing them to experiment or push boundaries even a little risks even less mutual trust, less honest and open communication, resentment, cowardice and aversion to solid risk taking, and can lead to an even more rebellious and strained relationship.
Furthermore, you're there to guide them so they can become their own person as they grow up and become an healthy and well rounded adult. It's a foolish and a rather selfish expectation to try and form them up into what YOU want them to be. This goes for parents and it goes for other outside influences, including the government.
If there's anything you should try to emphasize or try to instill in them, it's the core set of necessary values and tools they need so that they can grow up to become independent, intelligent, well rounded individuals who are capable of thinking for themselves and making their own choices.
What you're describing is more of letting them go outside to play and getting their knee scraped or even going out with their friends to a party.
This isn't overcoddling, this is protecting them from sick individuals. If you read the original thread, there's plenty of people sharing anecdotes that every parent fears.
Also, it's only "distrust" when they've already been brainwashed/groomed because, if they haven't, they would realize you're protecting them. As an adult, you're wiser than them and can pick up on red flags that would seem innocent and harmless to them.
Again, I recommend reading the thread. Also, read the comments from people who disagree - they don't want you knowing what your children are doing. Many of them point to 13-14 as the age you should "respect their privacy." If you go on the tranny subreddits, there's quite a few 13-17yr olds on there talking to sick individuals and some of those individuals are offering them HRT. That's just one example of what could be going on at that age.
I am very much aware of the present concerns and horrifying circumstances surrounding them. And I'm certainly not unaware of some rather close-call situations from people I know personally, and this is from years ago, and I'd have to be a fool to not expect things to be even worse today.
I was mostly saying that to go too far in one extreme in order to protect your kids against a clearly pervasive and dangerous influence such as today's gender-groomer culture may not always be the best answer.
Certainly special measures do need to be considered because of just how hostile and aggressively bold their actions are getting. But to be most effective you and your kid(s) need to be on the same side and work together, and thus you do not want to unnecessarily treat your kids like they're the enemy. They can be your single and best informants on what's going on, and you can use that information to help safeguard them from these growing threats. But that's only ever going to happen if they feel they can trust you.
That said, sometimes stricter measures might need to be employed. All I'm saying is that you probably shouldn't leap to draconian measures against your own kids. Discreet and fair measures, absolutely, and also be extra cautious with how freely you give that trust to anyone else when it comes to your child's well being. That especially includes the state, media, schools, and medical industries.
Remember who the threat really is.