To be honest, no one in society knows what masculinity is, nor femininity, nor love.

Masculinity is the core series of behaviors that allow a man to become a good father, husband, son, and pillar of his community through his agency.

Femininity is the core series of behaviors that allow a woman to become a good mother, wife, daughter, and pillar of her community through her inspiration (anima/animus).

Masculinity is defined primarily by stoicism, discipline, and courage. Men are defined by their agency, and these attributes support that agency. Stoicism gives them the ability to endure shocks so that they will not be easily rattled while protecting or providing for their family and community. Discipline gives them the rewards of a long-time preference (or 'vision') so they can achieve their goals. Courage provides them with both the glory of a risky success, and lessons of failure, both of which can be applied to the previous lessons of stoicism and discipline so that they can succeed with their agency again later.

Femininity is defined by inspiration, care, and cohesion. Women are defined not by agency but their animus, or what others will do for them as a result of their actions, and these attributes support that. Inspiration is what a woman does to cause, provoke, or incite men's agency to provide and protect for them. To be clear, this does not mean to push or pull men to act, but to simply act in such a way that inspires men to act of their own will, to fulfill a woman's will. This allows them to be protected and provided for in a world that could easily harm or destroy them, while fulfilling their partner's desire for a reward incentive for that agency. The reward of that agency is care. A woman shall care for her man in order to repair and recover him in his exhaustion of his agency. She must repair his stoicism, and his courage when damaged, and help to inspire him to maintain his discipline. She not only rewards his agency, she helps maintain it, and helps keep it on a righteous path. And all of this is for the creation and maintenance of social cohesion. A woman builds communities by navigating and creating social structures and interchanges. She quite literally builds him a family, and is a cornerstone element of building a "Home" rather than a household. A woman is the literal glue that creates cohesion among a social group, otherwise it would be left to a man to force that cohesion by charisma or discipline.

A feminine action should be apparent on observation. Feminine actions and presentations should exist within that framework of inspiration, care, and cohesion.

Femininity is not merely submissiveness. Submission is only a tactic of inspiration. It is submission to incite agency in men, and normally particular men, that can help build her a community that she couldn't otherwise do by herself. A shit-test is effectively a poor incitement to agency. Where as a good, feminine, woman does not need to incite a man to agency, but has already constructed a series of social cues and incentives that would already have your attention, and illicit the correct response.

Care behaviors are meant to repair and restore a man's agency. A woman knows that the care behaviors are not to be perpetual, but are meant to be temporary, such that a man's agency may be used again. A woman will be resentful when her care is used in perpetuity, because it demonstrates that a man's agency is permanently low, which causes her insecurity. If she is already insecure, then low agency makes the situation more serious, and she would become effectively intolerant. But, a man who's agency returns to him, and he uses that agency to provide for her again, proves that he's a worthwhile investment and her actions are rewarded with success, conditioning that behavior in her. Think of it like food and cooking. Only a man's agency can be used to acquire food, but then he must rest, and she must cook the food to give him a "glorious" meal that serves as his reward mechanism, and inspires him to leave again and return with more food. Her's is an animating behavior in him, and his reward is her behavior for his agency. This care extends all the way to aesthetics, as aesthetics has a direct and material impact on the mind. Something being clean works to calm the mind because when something is disordered, your brain trains itself to look at this disorder and remind yourself that you have to do something. So when a man comes home to find a clean house, rather than a messy house, he is literally psychologically triggered to be more calm and relaxed because there is less to order.

Social Cohesion is a bit of a more advanced concept where the woman is constructing a social circle. Now, men can certainly make friends and have social circles, but they tend to be more like packs. You got your specific ride-or-die allies that you co-operate with on tasks. However, women form broad social circles that can work as excellent social filtering mechanisms for problem solving and pair bonding. Attempting to maintain and develop wide social circles can both improve a man's (and thusly a woman's) social status. The infinitely many exchanges of women interacting and summoning men's agency to solve problems in a wide social circle is the very essence of a community building. This is how the man can become the pillar of his community: a woman can basically inject him into one, and build a social network around his agency. A family unit is a less broad, but very important social system that isn't as abstract. She is, by definition, at the center of that social system, and her status and authority radiate out from her motherhood. She maintains the social connections between all of the children, and can also help foster and support the social dynamics between the children's children, both from each branch in the family tree at the same age, or from one generation to the previous. (That is to say: your grandmother can help develop your relationship with your daughter, as well as develop your daughter's relationship with her cousin).

"But Gizortnik, what fucking women do you know that do this???"

Um... Well... they exist in historical sources?

Look: the Sexual Revolution and it's consequences have been a disaster for Western Civilization. Before the boomers, this shit was intuitive. Unfortunately, because it was intuitive, it wasn't formalized in a way that made it easily transmissible to other generations that might have been corrupted by contraception something. Meaning that what was intuitive became a kind of generational tribal knowledge that never got passed on. Your great-grandparents knew about this, but wouldn't have been able to articulate it, because why would it even need to be said when it was so obvious? Who, but us, would even ask "what is feminine"? Every generation before us would have said: "Do you not have eyes from which to see? Or hears of which to hear?" They wouldn't have guessed that the very concept of masculine and feminine would have been so violently raped that we'd have to ask.

That being said, yes, no modern young women in the west know how to be feminine. It's an entirely foreign concept to them. The biology that creates it still exists, but they've been institutionalized to reject biology and embrace Leftism, since biology is repressive to The General Will. Men can't be excused from this either: men don't know how to be masculine. They too have been institutionalized.

It's all there though. It's under the surface. It's covered up and beaten, but it's still there and alive, it just isn't well. The institutional maintenance of ideology is what's keeping it down.