I think many are maybe mistaking this for the more ludicrous attempts at teaching and overemphasizing some silly ass tips for communicating consent that had cropped up a few years ago. And nonsensical claims trying to paint flirting as assault.
Most of what I'm reading here is a bit more akin to what I might've read from the 80's, 90's, etc. where the TLDR is simply "Don't just assume that x means the person is going to be open to sexual interaction. Use your head and use your best judgement." I guess the most annoying part is that most of everything listed isn't exactly enlightening news to anyone who's mentally competent enough to consent to sex in the first place. Pretty much a "No duh" situation.
"Get consent" is something of a lousy way to word that final line though. "Get" implies that consent has to be loudly and blatantly expressed between participants, or something along those lines. When in reality, (both verbal and non-verbal) communication in relation to romantic and sexual interaction, especially between lovers who've known eachother's quirks and behaviors for a long time, is often very subtle and nuanced.
I think many are maybe mistaking this for the more ludicrous attempts at teaching and overemphasizing some silly ass tips for communicating consent that had cropped up a few years ago. And nonsensical claims trying to paint flirting as assault.
Most of what I'm reading here is a bit more akin to what I might've read from the 80's, 90's, etc. where the TLDR is simply "Don't just assume that x means the person is going to be open to sexual interaction. Use your head and use your best judgement." I guess the most annoying part is that most of everything listed isn't exactly enlightening news to anyone who's mentally competent enough to consent to sex in the first place. Pretty much a "No duh" situation.
"Get consent" is something of a lousy way to word that final line though. "Get" implies that consent has to be loudly and blatantly expressed between participants, or something along those lines. When in reality, (both verbal and non-verbal) communication in relation to romantic and sexual interaction, especially between lovers who've known eachother's quirks and behaviors for a long time, is often very subtle and nuanced.