My family is... Not a healthy or happy one. I imagine most people know this by now. Yet, for reasons that I honestly do not understand, my parents are still together. Toxic, painful, continuously arguing, but still together...
The same cannot be said for extended family. Divorces everywhere. A number of children out of wedlock. Painful intergenerational relations on both side. Lots of "not talking". Lost of... Honestly, relationships that are far more negative than they are positive. As the black sheep "loser" of the family, I can't tell you how shit my relationship with nearly all my cousins is, right now. I could, I suppose, blame myself for that, but I really don't think it is that simple...
I actually don't think this is that uncommon, where I live. Sure, most people don't have family quite as toxic as my own, however divorce is utterly ubiquitous. Siblings not getting along is probably more common than not. And honestly, it feels like people almost expect families to behave like this - not communicating, not really talking, and generally... Not behaving like civilised adults. At least amongst the majority "white" population, in addition to the "blak" population (among whom it is most definitely even worse, lol), this is... All too common.
Thoughts? What's it like for you lot, where you live? Do you get along with your extended family? Are you close to them? I realise that I am almost certainly an outlier, where my family are fucking shit, in addition to being the "black sheep loser to end all black sheep losers", but... I'm just curious.
I like the idea that "family is the people you choose to include in it", but I am yet to find my... "One". I'm honestly yet to really find anyone. So I don't have that to have as my "core". I'm sure it's very different for those that do. Unfortunately, though, I'm not sure I will ever even find that...
So yeah. Pretty blackpilled about "family", at the moment, after mounting betrayals, I have to be honest. Would appreciate some... Alternative insights, if your life experience differs in that way.
I think the selfishness of women is at an all time high, and that such a thing makes coherent family units difficult to produce and maintain. Curtailing so called women's rights severely is one of many necessary steps to restoring a functioning civilization.
I think that finding and gathering the like minded is paramount, moreso than tolerating any blood relatives who are leftist scum. My based friends are more my family than my sack of shit brother. I'd drop everything and cross the country to help them, I wouldn't piss on my brother if he were on fire.
I think it's past due that real Americans start sticking together, and that means expelling fake Americans from your life and social circle.
As for my extended family, I don't speak to most of them and they're well aware of why. I publicly disown leftists. Anyone who thinks that merely being a blood relative should get someone off the hook for being a traitor also goes straight to the permanent shit list. The rest of my family has shown themselves worthwhile.
Pretty harsh but based and increasingly a mentality that I think might be necessary.